A very warm greetings to the people living in the 21st century, located in India’s capital city, Delhi!
A city which has the VIPs, VVIPs and god knows how many Vs…???
A city of power, where so much security is provided to the “important” that the commons are forgotten!
A city where maybe thousands are employed to provide protection, but still a girl cannot go out of her house without fear!
Time: 6:00 pm
Location: Road just behind my house
My mom was cooking some delicacy and found some ingredients missing, she asked me to bring it from the nearby grocery store. Following her instructions, of course it’s just the evening time and I do not have to travel far, so it seems really simple.
I went out, just on the way back home, mind it it’s a busy road, just behind my house; I have walked that path zillion times!
Two guys on a motorcycle crossed me and threw something on my back, surprised, and a little shocked I looked up and abused them about driving in a proper way! Then my eyes fell on the thing that they threw on me, this bought me more into a state of embarrassment mixed with anger.
It was a packet of condoms!
That very moment I wanted to hold those rascals’ collar and give them a tight slap each, but the only problem- they were gone!
Since people can point out about me being dressed inappropriately, so to clear the doubt, I was wearing a plain kurta and salwar, covering me properly!
This is a very common culture in the life of a girl, incidents of eve teasing happen just every day, in places expected like buses, metro, road and even in the places unexpected!
Some report these and as a result they have to face a bigger amount of trouble in going in and out of the police stations at odd times!
A friend once reported a drunken guy passing lewd comments to her, to the police, our so-called “Women helpline”, to our surprise the attitude of the officers was somewhat like this while registering the complaint- “Madam ko cheed diya hai, gussa ho gai!” (Madam has been teased and she is angry).
Standing there in the police station with my friend, I sensed that an eve-teasing matter holds no relevance to them!
Since we had enough proof, so the police traced the vehicle, for which I appreciate their efforts. But then another issue in hand was the identity disclosure, when a guy can tease a girl in broad day light, he can also create troubles for her if he comes to know her whereabouts. Of course, the big chunks of male ego, “How could a girl complain about me?”
The only way to avoid the identity disclosure was to ask the accused for an apology, in written and we had to except it otherwise the case will go to court and which clearly means inviting trouble!
The only question in my mind while writing this is, why can’t I roam around freely wherever I want, at any time of the day?
What is my crime, that I have to go through such kind of harassment? A man can never understand that feeling of being touched forcefully without your consent, of hearing a lewd comment about yourself, that helplessness when someone is stalking you, that anger when you want to protest but you do not to avoid a bad scene!
Is it my fault being a girl?
Most girls do not even mention these incidents to their family because that will create a stress in the members. (Girls are already a burden in India!)
Why can’t our society grow up and in each case not put the blame of protection of the girl on the girl itself? We can teach our sons to respect women, to behave properly with girls.
Maybe then a girl in can go out of her house with this comfort that she will be safe till the time she is back in her house. Maybe then our society will be just, and safe for all!
- Harassment shackles women (thehindu.com)
- Walking amid the thorns (1l1l.wordpress.com)
- Need for Self Defense – An Interview (justiceforwomenindia.wordpress.com)
- No Eve Teasing (lonelyplanet.com)